11 Communication Tips For Your First Real Relationship

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2. Don’t Worry If Your Text Habits Change

When you’re in the honeymoon phase, it’s not unusual to want to constantly be around your new partner, whether that’s IRL or over text. But over time, your digital communication habits might change — and that’s OK. “If you and your partner text a lot, over time, the frequency of you or your partner’s responses may not be as immediate as they were in at the start or your relationship — and that is perfectly normal,” Rappaport says. “The immediacy of texts will dissipate at times due to driving, work, and many other factors. You do not need to know why your partner doesn’t respond right away. You just need to be secure in knowing your partner will respond to a text if it is an emergency or if a response is needed.”

3. Don’t Overthink Things

While it’s common to have some doubts at the beginning of a relationship — especially if it’s your first serious one — it’s important not to let yourself get too caught up in those insecurities and start overthinking every little thing.

“The tendency to try to read between the lines or analyze what your partner has said will create doubt and undermine your relationship if you have insecurities about where you stand, or if your partner is not one who easily says, ‘I love you,'” Rappaport says. “Not all partners say those three little words, but they may show their affection in other ways. Don’t let your fear or insecurities mess with your head and get in the way of a blossoming relationship. Be comfortable in knowing that your partner chose you and not someone else.”

4. Let Them Finish Their Thought

Even if you feel like you know your partner so well that you could finish all their sentences, it doesn’t mean that you should. Instead, let them have the space to form and articulate their own thoughts, sans interruption. “It is very easy to want to try to finish your partner’s sentences, especially if they are someone who takes their time to say what is on their mind,” Rappaport says. “While you may know what they are trying to say, don’t cut them off in mid-sentence. They may become angry or frustrated. Let them say what they need to say in the time they need to say it and they will be happy and you will learn to accommodate their way of communicating.”

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