9. Remember To Take Their Feelings Into Account
When you’re single, the only person you have to take into account when you make decisions is you; in a relationship, you have to think about your partner’s wants and needs, too. “People who have been single for awhile get used to making all their decisions on their own and never having to think of anyone else,” Samantha Daniels, relationship expert and owner of Samantha’s Table Matchmaking. “However, when you get into a relationship, you need to start thinking differently and making decisions that would work for you but also for your partner and the two of you together.”
10. Trust Your Gut Instinct
When you’re in a relationship for the first time, it’s easy to put blinders on and ignore red flags because you simply don’t want to see them. But it’s crucial to communicate not only with your partner, but with yourself, too — which is why learning to trust your gut in a relationship is so important. “Even at the beginning, if something feels like it should be addressed, something off, or something you feel may impact the relationship, say it,” Laura MacLeod, Licensed Master Social Worker. “These observations open the door for the person to explain. They also show that you are tuned in — and not afraid to address what might be uncomfortable.”
11. Have Fun Communicating
Naturally, it takes time and effort to improve your communication skills in a relationship — but that doesn’t mean you and your new partner can’t have fun along the way. “As much as it’s important to have direct communication it is also important to continue to have fun in communication,” Naphtali Roberts, LMFT. “Look for ways to be silly, make jokes and laugh at yourself because it will help learning to communicate easier.” The ultimate goal? To be able to work through your issues, concerns, and needs as a team that your first real relationship also ends up being one where you’re both satisfied — happy communicating!